What is your EQ? This post follows up our class discussion on Emotional Intelligence Please review this article entitled "Teaching Emotional Intelligence In The Business School Curriculum" by Frank Bellizzi, Quinnipiac University. Then, check out this self test. Please create a post that makes application to our class discussions, assigned readings,and the results of your self test. The blog post should share your top two "personal" EQ improvements. What needs to be improved to develop your emotional intelligence? Share with us your personal strategies and/or plans to put them into action. Blog comment is due by Friday, Sept 17 at the start of class.
Emotional Intelligence
What needs to be improved to develop my emotional intelligence are listening and a sense of empathy. Those are the main two because I have really come to notice that about myself and it is not good. Listening and empathy are serious problems because I really tend to sometimes not care what people say or not just pay any attention at all. I now realize that it is bad because that means I have bad communication skills and I don’t hardly relate to anybody that much. It also shows that I am careless and selfish and that is not the type of person that I want to be. I really wouldn’t call empathy a serious problem but it does affect me in some ways such as wishing that I could have did something to it better and also realizing that anything can happen to me and I am not exempt. So what I plan to do now is take the time out and actually listen to people so I can get a better understanding of things and hopefully relate better.
ReplyDeleteWatching the film in class really opened up my eyes. I am now aware of what needs to be changed in order for my emotional intelligence to be improved. The most important thing that will help me have better emotional intelligence is to learn to relax. I have really bad anxiety and this affects my behavior. I believe that going to a quiet place once a day to relax will help me have higher behavior intelligence. The second way I will improve my behavior intelligence is by learning to listen how I talk to myself. I am really hard on myself and tend to put myself down whenever I am around people. I tend to believe that I am not a good enough speaker and that everyone is watching me and basically tearing me apart with their looks. I think that learning to calm down and talk to myself better will help me have better intelligence. I took the EQ quiz and I am proud to say that I scored an 80. I believe I have pretty good behavioral intelligence, but I also believe that I have a lot of room for improvement. This fall is going to be a learning and growing experience for me, and I will become better.
ReplyDeleteThe Emotional Intelligence video made me start to think of how I listen, and learn. I thought about how I used to listen, and I was also opened minded to what Dr. Hank Weisinger said. I took the top ten way of having emotional intelligence, becoming a better listener and it helped me realize some of the stuff I have done which has not exactly worked. Emotional Intelligence is the process of managing your own emotions and changing the mood of yourself. Emotional Intelligence is side by side with your behavior. This is also emotional contagious which means it feeds off your behavior, and affects it. One of the biggest things I would have to do is anticipate other’s emotions or their emotional state. Most tips to help emotional intelligence are very helpful and could be used in many situations. The first tip is to learn how to listen and talk to yourself. It is advised to talk to yourself at least three times a day for five minutes each. A person who talks to themselves has goals, and they know the accomplishments they will strive to achieve. People must use their thoughts as instructional statements. Dr. Weisinger tells people to have at least three simple instructions and achieve them. He says this because it will provide a person with a sense of accomplishment and happiness. People must pay attention to their behavior, intentions, and directions. Most people who have Emotional Intelligence are people who can solve problem. People need a positive attitude. I know I am a problem solver because even in the worse times I am positive. For instance my friend was talking about taking the long way to his dormitory and being negative about it. He was being all negative about this because there was construction going on by his building. But I told him at least you could finish your cigarette. And he did not think of that. He became a little happier because he realized that. I really have a talent for thinking outside the box. People should turn the denial they have into positive denial. Positive denial is when a person thinks of bad news slowly, and over time deals with it rather than all at once. For example you are bad at essays. The person does a little of the essay every day. It feels like there is less work than. You would not become overwhelmed I also need some better listening skills. I have a tendency to fade in and out of a conversation. I also would have to work on taking criticism. I sometimes take it the wrong way, when I really should appreciate it. The quiz and the video are similar because they both show examples of what is happens in situations and it also showed me some things I need to change. I know have many flaws, but I will fix these by implying what I have learned from here.
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ReplyDeletePersonally I believe that I need to improve on my sense of humor and the way that I talk to myself, in order to strengthen my emotional intelligence. Throughout my speeches in this class alone I find it hard to have a smile on my face and I always appear so serious. Prof. M has often told me to relax and smile a little. I can’t seem to find a way to bring my humor from outside of class and incorporate it into my public speaking abilities. A sense of humor is important for your public speaking abilities if you want to connect with your audience and have them pay attention to what you are saying. Humor is also very nourishing, it brightens up a person’s day. Another thing that I have to improve is the way that I talk to myself. I sometimes have the habit of being very critical and try to put myself down when it comes to my work. Although being critical is ok at times, I have the tendency to overdo it. This can be a problem because then it adds more pressure on me. This will result in me stressing out and overwhelming myself with unnecessary worries. My plan in order to improve my emotional intelligence is to lighten up a little during my speeches. Perhaps practice a small joke here or there and loosen up outside of the classroom so that when I present my speeches I have grown accustomed to be humorous. I also will try to catch myself when I start to put myself down and turn it into something positive. For example instead of being a ‘Debbie Downer’ I’ll try to be optimistic and say something positive about my work and little by little I’ll do it on my own.
ReplyDeleteI found the top ten ways to improve your emotional intelligence video very interesting. I liked how he took his knowledge on psychology, simplified the information, and applied it to everyday life. His tips were very simple and anyone could use them. His fourth tip was to observe your behavior closely and use it as a mirror. One would do this by using other people and seeing how they talk about you. I could defiantly benefit from this tip. A lot of people have told me in the past that I have an “I don’t care attitude” which is good and bad. On the positive side my personality is very passive so I don’t have many arguments with people. But when it comes to a more professional atmosphere such as work or school, people of importance have the impression that I don’t care. In the future I’m going to be more visibly passionate about things I like. I know that being passive in life makes things easier short term but to be successful you need to be aggressive in some areas. His last tip was to make tasks underwhelming not overwhelming. I defiantly have a problem with this when it comes to school work. I always right out all the assignments I have on my planner for the whole week and then stress everyday about how much work I need to do. In the future I am still going to plan out my tasks ahead but as soon as I get them start working on it. I hate waiting till the last minute to do an assignment and becoming stressed out. I found this video to be very interesting and useful and I’m glad that we were able to watch it.
ReplyDeleteWatching the "Emotional Intelligence" video helped me to realize all the things I always think I'm doing are things that I'm really not doing at all, such as listening. Most importantly, two things I know I definately have to wwork on is practicing the power of positive criticism, and learning to relax. Learning to relax is a big issue for me, and this is mainly because I NEVER relax. I'm always up, being productive and never letting anything happen on its own. I think if I learned how to balance things out and not always jumping to do everything in a heartbeat, relaxing would be so much simpler. Another issue I am going to work on is practicing the power of positive criticism. I always thought that I gave good positive criticism to others, but I know for a fact that I dont take it very well. I've never been one to like what other people have to say about me or the things I do, wether they are positive things, or negative things. The fact of the matter is I get way to defensive, and sometimes its for no reason at all. On my self test I got a score of an 80. I think that if I was more consciously aware of the bad things I do, then maybe I would have gotten a higher score. I am currently working on becoming a better listener, and person. Seeing the video really helped me to discover things about myself that I didn't even know existed. Thanks to the "Emotional Intelligence" video, I can now work on self improvement.
ReplyDeleteThe two main improvements I need to develop my emotional intelligence are listening and relaxing. My listening isn’t the best. I can be easily distracted at times. That easy distraction often turns into daydreaming. In order to help improve this development, I plan to take notes during class. Taking notes will help a lot. Taking notes, not only will I focus better on the topic presented before me, but I will remember the material better since we only retain 25% of what we hear. I always tense up a lot. A prime example would be during the hurdles. I am so anxious to hurdle because I never know the outcome of the race. Sometimes, my anxiousness doesn’t work in my benefit. Sometimes I tense up and it really affects my race. To improve this development, I plan on taking time out to myself before my races. This will help me bring my anxiousness down and concentrate more on the race.
ReplyDeleteThe area that I think I most need to work on in relation to my Emotional Intelligence is relaxing. I find it hard many times to sit still and just let the things that happen around me happen. I feel as though I should always be in a constant state of motion but now I understand that there is no need to be. I understand that I can just need to sometimes sit back and just relax when the situation calls for it. Another area that I need to work on in my Emotional Intelligence is my response to taking criticism. I have a habit of looking at all criticism as bad and have in turn usually been overly critical with myself. What I need to do is to internalize all constructive critique and try to work on what need to be changed instead of fixating on the bad to the point where I cannot notice the good. When I one day learn to have patience with things that are not in my control and to take criticism as a way of bettering myself and not as a form of condemnation then I will truly be an emotionally intelligent person.
ReplyDeleteDuring this week we have learned a lot about emotional intelligence and I have come to realize that I really do not know how to control my emotional intelligence. There are many things I need to improve on to help me gain that intelligence but I think the main one is problem solving. I am always able to help others with their problems and their situations but when it comes to me I can not. I have a very strong attitude and I get mad very easily. Although I am a very outgoing person I am always stressed out about something and will try to hide it. I take my feelings out on people many times and that is not good. After watching the emotional intelligence video I learned a lot about the things I thought I was doing that I am not. Once I start working on problem solving everything else will follow such as relaxing. If I learn to relax in my situations then they will not be so stressful to deal with. I also need to realize that it will take some time for me to cope with my emotions. Now I will begin to work and improve my emotional intelligence! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteWhat’s my EQ? When I took the self test I received an 85%, it said that my emotional intelligence was pretty good. It was not bad but I still had a little more work to do. It also told me more in detail that I know how to deal with my own emotions pretty good and with others as well. I know how to overcome my problems and rise above the obstacles so I could reach my goals. My results also told me that I had a very easy time helping people, which I agree with. That’s what I want to do when I grow up, I want to be a probation officer, or a police officer so I can help as many people as I can. Overall I thought this self test was pretty accurate. I also need to work on a few more things; one would be to be more relaxed when it comes to simply situations. For example going up in front of a room and presenting a speech. I get so worked up about having to present a speech. The thing is that it is really not a big deal. I am just talking to a bunch of my friends, its nothing to get so worked up about it, I just need to relax and speak with a lot of confidence. One way I could work on this is by practicing more, you know what they say practice makes perfect. Practicing your speech in front of a lot of your close friends before your actual speech can help you become more confident, because if you can present to your bests friends you can present in front of anyone. Next would be that I have to become a better problem solver. I make a small problem into something big that sometimes I cannot handle it. So a way I can work on fixing this would be to not let the problem become bigger than it already is, work it out right when it happens.
ReplyDeleteHaving viewed this speech the first major influence that hit me was how well Dr. Hank Weissinger spoke. The way he engaged the audience and followed his ten ways to Emotional Intelligence with examples from his own life showed just how educated he was. The most interesting point of his speech, a point that really deeply influenced me was when he said, "Listen to how you talk to yourself!" I have always talked to myself whenever I would look for advice, but I have never truly listened to the tone it was in. Often times whether it be in the gym doing the last set of push ups, or typing the last part of my speech, i find myself becoming very negative inside. The tone of voice that is spoken inside my mind is completely against the completion of any activities. This has been an inner struggle with me for as long as I can remember. It really bothers me to work so hard on a project and not be able to say i completed it. However, after listening to the Emotional Intelligence speech, I find myself wanting to achieve more. I am a very relaxed type of person who laughs very often. I feel that aside from the weakness of sometimes wanting to give up instead of pursuing the project to the end, I can become a very Emotionally Intelligent young man.
ReplyDeleteThe combination of watching the video in class and taking the self test made me realize how I need to work on my emotional intelligence. My entire high school career I have let my emotions got in the way of my work because I did not know what to do with them. As stated in the video we were never given a class on releasing stress or knowing our emotions. So I know I am not the only one who has this problem. I need to work on a couple of things like learning to relax and positive criticism.
ReplyDeleteI need to learn how to properly relax and do it often. I do relax as much as I can, but I am always doing other things at the same time. For example I am texting or watching TV or listening to music. So they get in the way of me just clearing my mind. So I will now turn off my phone, TV and my IPod for at least ten minutes in a quiet environment daily. This will help me feel better and I will be in a better mind set when it is time for class, homework or studying.
The other thing I need to work on is my acceptance of positive criticism. When I ask someone to check a paper or project I always say “Can you tell me what’s wrong with it?” That is not a good way to start because I am already starting out negative. Also after one of me speeches I cannot wait for the positive part of the critique, but I get so caught up on the negative right after I forget my positives. So I need to listen to the positive part of the critique and not keep my mind on the negative. If I don’t all my positives become negatives because I will forget to do them.
So with these tips I can have a high emotional intelligence. I just need to remember in weaknesses so I can turn them in to attributes. I will have all ten points from the video in mind in my everyday life. The two I discussed here will be the first two in my mind for not only the rest of my college career, but my entire life.
After taking the Emotional Intelligence test and watching the video in class, I now realize that I have a lot of work to do on my emotions. I have learned that your I.Q can only get you so far and that your emotional intelligence has eighty percent to do with your success in life. At first I thought I had a good grip on my emotions but since I failed the emotional Intelligence test, it really opened my eyes to the fact that I don’t have a handle on my emotions at all.
ReplyDeleteI need to control my anger at times. I used to have to go to anger management for getting into fights quite often. I have calmed down a lot since then but I still need a lot of work. I also need to work on listening to people instead of waiting for my turn to speak. I need to take in what people say and really learn from it and use that information. I have to learn to relax and take some tips from the video about exercises for that. I take criticism pretty well but that is probably due to years of football coaches yelling at me. I am on my way to having better control of my emotions and becoming a better listener!